This is a nice and applicable story in the bible for those people who are hurt in a relationship. Well, initially this story is delicated to a good friend of mine who was hurt in a relationship, so i believe i should share this story with you people too. Have fun reading =)
God Bless
Topic : False Intimacy
But Onan knew that the offsping would not be his; so whenever he lay with his brother's wife, he spilled his seed on the ground to keep from producing offspring for his brother. (Genesis 38:9)
The story
Tamar lay perfectly still, watching Onan's face as he withdrew himsel. Did he think she was a fool, unaware of what he is doing? At first she had blamed herself every time her menstrual cycle started. Perhapes she was defective, unable to bear children. The possibility of disgrace and the prospect of never holding her own child in her arms pierced her heart and increased her mourning.
When she was given in marriage to Er, the son of Judah, life had seemed so promising. He had come from an elite and influential family. But alas, Er was also wicked. So wicked that the Lord had put him to death. Now, according to God's law, Onan was to take her as his wife and produce a child to continue his brother's lineage. But Onan was not interested in splitting what he had with a son that would not be considered his. However, he would not refuse the selfish pleasure of sleeping with Tamar. And so he spilled his seed on the ground.
In time tamar realized that the fault lay not with her. Onan was taking advantage of her situation. But where could she turn, whom could she tell? Who would come to her defense? No one, or so she thought.
god saw the wicked behavior of Onan. His transgression was not only against Tamar but against God'law. So God took Onan's life, too.
Tamer could not decide if her tearswere over Onan's deathor over her last immediate chance to concieve. She wondered at the awful games life was playing on her. Why did her fate always lie in the hands of men? They could be so cruel. After all, she wanted so little. Just someone to love ... and to be loved n return.
The lesson
Intimacy without responsibility always leads to heartbreak. Someone always gets hurt. It can be devastating to give your all to a relationship, only to discover that you are on the path to nowhere. While some willfully endanger a meaningful relationship by ignoring that word of God and partaking in sex before marriage, just as many take the right path and find themselves victims of their own sincerity and honest effort.
Many a misleading relationship has been wrapped in the guise of “friendship.” Guard your heart when someone says, “Let’s be friends,” but continues to make intimate overtures in conversation and gestures that make you hope for more. Dangling the inviting carrots of a promising relationship before you, he makes a commitment to someone else, then absolves himself of blame by reminding you, “ I said we were just friends.”
It is no wonder you are hurting. This man has spilled the seeds of his heart on the ground before you. He has withheld his love, leaving you to feel spurned, rejected, and betrayed. Instead of being outraged by his dishonesty and insensitivity, you may begin to question your own worth: What’s wrong of me? What did I do wrong? Why wasn’t my love returned?
Pain, shame, hopelessness. These are the emotions that haunt every unfruitful relationship. If allowed to roost they bear the fruit of bitterness. “The next man will have a hard way to go,” becomes the unspoken vow of the heart that has lost the ability to trust. Little do men who abuse hearts in the name of “friendship” realize they have indeed affected the inheritance of their “brothers.”
On the other hand, we must be careful never to “roll over “a debt of unforgiveness. The next prospect for love is not responsible for what has transpired before. Every disappointment must be buried at the foot of the cross, so that we might recognize true love when it comes and embrace it without reserve.
Comment
For those who are hurt in the process of a broken relationship. This is a good prayer to help you feel love once again. This time you will slowly exprience the greatst love of all. Jesus's Love. So please pray the following prayer with conviction and with all your heart, exchanging your burdens, your hurts for Jesus's Love. Your load is heavy but His load is light.
The Prayer
Dear Heavenly Father, I have grown bitter and hopeless. I must admit that the repeated cycle of disappointments in my life has made me into someone that i really am not. I long to start over, but I'm afraid. Afraid to trust. To hope. To love again. To trust you for a differnt ending to my next love story. I'm afraid to wait on you because i feel that even my heart out of your hands and protected it myself. But in dressing it to keep out the chill of rejection, i have insulated it from all the good things you have in stire for e as well.
Help me. Help me to open my hands and take you at your word. Help me to trust, to release my heart back into your care and to realize your promises as reality. As i limp back to your arms, cover me in the garments of vulnerability and hope. I know this is the only way to recieve from you and i long to be blessed. Keep my heart and make it beat with a faith in truelove once again, in Jesus' name. Amen.
Extract taken from "Prayer Guide for the Broken Hearted" by Michelle Mckinny Hammond page 38 to 40.
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